Freedom &
Attachment
Matrix (FAM)

A dynamic conception of attachment theory, for navigating the interplay of autonomy and connection.

Freedom &
Attachment
Matrix (FAM)

A dynamic conception of attachment theory, for navigating the interplay of autonomy and connection.

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An Evolution of Attachment Theory

The FAM moves beyond fixed styles and labels, offering a nuanced lens to understand how autonomy and connection dynamically interact. Integrating attachment theory, neuroscience, Buddhist principles, polyvagal theory, and narrative systems, this model transforms attachment from a static concept to an integrative real-time practice that fosters relational depth and authentic connections.

Honoring Me and We

Human experience is a dynamic interplay between autonomy and connection. We are constantly navigating how to balance our need for freedom with our desire for closeness—both within ourselves and in our relationships.

The Freedom & Attachment Matrix (FAM) captures this intricate dance by integrating multiple dimensions: attachment styles, neuroception, activity patterns, freedom orientation, and more.

By working with this model, you can move beyond fixed attachment styles and instead embrace an adaptive, real-time approach that supports secure, authentic, and resilient relationships.

Secure and attuned states represent the optimal balance between autonomy and connection. These states are characterized by a sense of interdependence, flow, equanimity, and reflective awareness. Clients in this space experience relational safety, authentic self-expression, and a fluid ability to engage without losing themselves.

Creator Therapy and Coaching Practitioners do their best to embody these qualities throughout their work. They also focus on supporting clients to access these states by fostering nervous system regulation, narrative coherence, and clear communication.

Anxious and agitated states often reflect a deep commitment to connection and a heightened sensitivity to relational cues. These states can carry a potential for intuition, alertness, and engagement. However, when dysregulated, they may manifest as reactivity, over-accommodation, or fear-driven behaviors. For example, lients may exhibit anxious, agitated, or fight/fawn responses when triggered.

Creator Therapy and Coaching Practitioners honor the underlying intention to connect while guiding clients to distinguish between responsive care and anxious overextension. The work involves harnessing the natural alertness of these states, fostering nervous system stability, and building skills to navigate connection without losing self-sovereignty.

Avoidant and autonomous states often indicate a strong capacity for self-reliance and independence. At their best, they reflect an ability to maintain personal boundaries and stay grounded in one’s own experience. However, these states can also lead to emotional withdrawal, rigid independence, or a reluctance to engage vulnerably. Clients in these states may display flight or feign responses, characterized by inauthenticity or a reluctance to engage in vulnerability or relational dialogue.

Creator Therapy and Coaching Practitioners recognize the wisdom in preserving autonomy while helping clients see where protective detachment may hinder deeper intimacy. The focus is on integrating relational skills with self-assured independence, allowing for balanced and meaningful connections without compromising personal agency.

Disorganized and antagonistic states can hold profound insights into unresolved complexities and a drive to make sense of conflicting internal experiences. At their core, they may carry a quest for coherence, a deep desire for connection despite fear, and an untamed creative potential. However, these states can also lead to chaotic relational patterns and self-sabotage. Clients may oscillate between connection and avoidance, displaying antagonistic or shutdown behaviors that disrupt emotional and relational stability. 

Creator Therapy and Coaching Practitioners see value in the raw intensity and openness to new perspectives that often accompany disorganization. The work involves creating safe structures that hold this complexity, guiding clients toward integrating fragmented parts while carefully titrating emotional exposure to stay within the window of tolerance. This approach helps transform disarray into intentional, resilient ways of relating, allowing clients to build coherence without feeling overwhelmed.

Apply this model to yourself with your free copy of:
The Freedom &
Attachment Workbook

Unlock the dynamic interplay between freedom and connection with the Freedom & Attachment Workbook. This guide invites you to explore the patterns shaping your relationships—both with yourself and others—so you can move from unconscious conditioning to intentional, secure, and expansive love. Through deep reflection and practical exercises, you’ll gain the clarity to honor your autonomy without sacrificing intimacy. This isn’t just self-inquiry—it’s an activation. A reclamation of your power to create relationships that feel both deeply grounded and free.

 

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The FAM is a key aspect of:

Creator Therapy & Coaching Program

Begins June 13th, 2025

 

Creator Coaching & Therapy is a 9-month training experience that brings together evidence-based best-practices with integrative-,approaches that support the whole being:

âś” Polyvagal and Trauma-informed therapy & coaching
✔ Attachment-based work for individuals & couples
✔ Existential & transpersonal frameworks
✔ The Integral Attachment Model (IAM)
âś” The Freedom & Attachment Matrix (FAM)
✔ Bottom-up somatic & top-down narrative transformation
âś” CBT and solution-focused tools
âś” Advanced communication & relational protocols
✔ Live practice, peer mentoring, & personal growth

You won’t just learn theory. You’ll integrate the work—in your body, your relationships, your worldview, your practice.

So that by the time you complete this journey—you are not just certified. You and you life are transformed.

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Ready to Create New Possibilities? 

After years of running the
Creator Coaching Program
this is our first time sharing this
new and vastly improved offering.
In honor of this, for 2025 
you can get it at a 67% discount.

Early Bird (First 6 Spots or Until May 13th)

$1333 USD or 3 monthly payments of $497 USD

âś” Includes full program access
✔ Exclusive Bonuses for Early Birds:
- Post-program 1:1 integration session
- Lifetime discount on Self Craft’s automated programs

 

Standard Enrollment for 2025

$1678 USD
or
3 monthly payments of $633 USD

âś” Includes full program access

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What’s Possible in an Intro Session?

If you're feeling the call—but want to be sure this is the right next step for you—let’s talk.

In this free 45-minute session, we’ll explore where you are on your path—whether you're an aspiring therapist or coach, an experienced practitioner seeking new depth, or someone who knows you’re meant to support others but aren’t sure what that looks like yet.

This is a space to ask questions, feel into alignment, and explore what’s emerging for you professionally and personally.

No pressure. No sales pitch. Just real conversation.

You’ll leave with insight, clarity, and a stronger sense of whether this program is the right container to support your next evolution—in yourself and in your work.

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